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    Sunday, November 16, 2008

    How do you measure your self-worth?

    "I want to be the best that I can be. I challenge myself each day by achieving perfection."



    What happens when you don’t achieve perfection? 
    "I do what I need to do to achieve perfection."

    How do you know when you have achieved perfection? 
    "Because I could see it in their faces, they love what I’ve done or how I made them feel."
     
    Who's "They?"
    "Them, all of them, you, her, him - everybody around me."

    What happens when you don’t make them happy or they don’t like what you did for them? 
    "It means I haven’t reached perfection, so I will better myself for the next time." 

    So you measure yourself based on how other people react?
    "Of course, I’m a giver. My purpose is to make other people happy."

    What happens when you don’t make those people happy? 
    "For example: If someone came to my house for dinner and they did not eat my food, I would be offended. And not only that, but they are also saying that my house is dirty, or that they don't like the way my house looks, or something. So the next time they come over I will make sure the house is spotless and that I cook a bigger and better meal than the last time." 

    Do you find anything odd about what you just said? 
    "No, that’s the way I am. I’m here to make other people happy by giving them happiness through the things that bring me joy." 

    What brings you JOY? 
    "Making others happy"

    You base your self-worth by how others respond to you for the things you do for them? 
    "No... I didn’t mean it like that."

    Then, what did you mean? 




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    9 comments:

    Sue said...

    Oh my, how illuminating!

    November 16, 2008 at 1:26 PM
    Jen - Queen of Poo said...

    Very good! I saw a little of myself in there, and of course, put like this it makes it seem rather silly. :-)

    November 16, 2008 at 1:46 PM
    Bruno LoGreco said...

    Your choice of words are so appropriate Sue. LMAO

    You are not alone Jen. The tricky part is learning why you do it. :)

    November 16, 2008 at 3:19 PM
    Mona said...

    was this a real conversation you had with someone or an illustration?

    November 17, 2008 at 5:58 PM
    Bruno LoGreco said...

    It was a real conversation mona. Welcome back!

    November 17, 2008 at 6:00 PM
    Mona said...

    i am willing to bet it was a woman?

    er, what did she mean?

    thanks, good to be back bruno! i missed your blog (:

    November 18, 2008 at 8:34 PM
    Anonymous said...

    This is a fantastic topic. Your readers will appreciate how you offer a variety of quotes about this theme. They remind us writers have explored and continue to explore it widely. I have also written a recent blog post on this topic:
    http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2008/11/11/how-much-are-you-worth.html#entry2551436

    November 20, 2008 at 12:07 AM
    Anonymous said...

    sorry yet again, I have an opinion...hahaha

    I was just noticing lately how many spiritual people use the word "perfection" I used to be one of them but then I began realizing that when you are on your personal growth path you eventually find yourself thinking or believing things like "oh, I already know these concepts why am I still doing [such and such]" this, leaves us in a down state that could be reversed had we NOT been striving for perfection, but for WHOLENESS :)

    Everyone wants to be a whole person. It is perfection we are striving towards....and if it is, we'll never get there b/c like your conversation showed....no one can be perfect b/c the definition is way too broad. Many religions are guilty of putting the impossible task of reaching PERFECTION instead of enlightenment.

    I dont know if this is what you believe, but if you are also in a place where you are striving to be perfect, you'll most likely find that it is impossible to be content /w yourself 100% of the time, considering how much we falter as spirits inhabiting human bodies :) lol

    I am only sharing this b/c it wasn't until I got rid of that "being perfect" goal that I actually started seeing improvements in myself :) THANKS for writing I love this blog!

    November 20, 2008 at 4:24 PM
    Bruno LoGreco said...

    Thanks mona - I missed your wonderful comments while you were on vacation. :) Yes - she was a female, but also a female with cultural differences. A lot of times culture plays a big role in how people perceive themselves. We'll see what happens.

    Thanks Liara! Personalities really intrigue me, more and more with each passing day. Five billion different personalities and behavior traits across the globe, yet we all operate and are programmed in a similar manner - Influencers and culture.

    No need to apologize Ali - your comments are welcome. In my opinion when a person continues to repeat the same stuff, although he or she believes they know the material, it's because they have not learned the behavior associated to the reaction, or their automatic reaction (Ego). It also implies that you believe you have learned all there is to learn with this subject. Perfection is subjective. Anybody that strives for perfection will be disappointed a few times along the way -And what happens to these very same people that achieve perfection, what about the next time? Does the bar get raised? I don't strive to be perfect - I strive to be ME - what ever "me" is. :) I'm glad you enjoy this blog. See you real soon Ali. Love your comments.

    November 21, 2008 at 10:17 AM

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    Ten Powerful Self-Coaching Tips

    By Bruno LoGreco

    Are you living the life of creativity and happiness that you've always dreamed of, or are you allowing your fears or other outside factors to influence you?

    Following the path that your heart's desires requires courage and might require a shift in attitude. There are several methods you can use to act as your own life coach and start working toward the life you dream of.

    Ideas for self-improvement

    You don't need to change every aspect of your life at once in order to improve your attitude and outlook on life. Self-improvement can feel daunting if you try to change everything at once.

    A good way to embark on your journey of self-coaching is to make one change and see what kind of impact it has upon your life. The following tips are designed to help you improve your life and become your own life coach. Try out one of the following tips at a time to positively impact your attitude and daily life.

    1. Find some ‘you' time. Everyone needs time alone to meditate and recharge. You may think you don't have extra time in your day. Start with 10-20 minutes to use for meditation or silent reflection.

    2. Ask yourself what you truly want in life. Are you living your life according to your true dreams and desires? You may be unaware of your desires that lie hidden beneath your surface needs and wants, so take the time to find out.

    3. Write everything down. Even if your thought seems silly, write it down! You may be surprised by the inspiration and ideas you can come up with.

    4. Journal daily, but with a twist. Instead of just writing about today, try writing about yesterday.

    5. Keep track of the "happy moments." Each day has potential for many small moments that bring joy and happiness. If you don't make a special note of them, you may not even recognize the small joys in your day.

    6. Choose one task each night to complete the next day. This way, you have focus, and you accomplish at least one task. Tasking and taxing yourself with effort is important in reaching goals.

    7. Smile when you wake up. Smiling is contagious. By smiling you improve your mood and can potentially improve someone else's day as well.

    8. Give thanks each night. Gratitude will improve your outlook on life and help you see all the good and wonderful moments of your day.

    9. Try something new. A new experience fuels creativity and your enjoyment of the day.

    10. Create at least one memorable moment each day. Make each day unforgettable, even if in a small way!

    Taking the next step with a life coach

    Self-coaching tips are great ideas for helping you improve your life. However, you can take your life to the next level with a life coach and mentor. A professional life coach can help you set goals and help you move forward with your dreams. If you're looking for the right path toward happiness, a life coach can help you discover the path your heart truly desires.

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    The Success Indicators on Your Life Path

    Many people seek out a particular goal in their life path and are content when they achieve it. The chance to broaden their horizons or learn new things within an existent structure is not as appealing to them as it is to some others. This is an issue that arises in many individuals because they mistakenly think they have achieved what they wanted to in their lives. The plethora of environmental noise around them begins to infringe upon their goals and forces them to lose sight of what they truly wanted.

    A good way to think of this problem is to envision a large square box. This is not just any box though. Rather, in this case, your box has been divided into three separate, but equally shaped rectangular boxes, all stacked on top of one another. Each of these rectangular boxes is a highly important expression of your life goals -- individual levels of success. Within each of these levels of success is an indicator that tells you how close you are to becoming successful in this area of your life.

    Every area of your life that you identify as a potential path for success can be further divided, containing the many different events and obstacles you will encounter as you strive to reach your goals. Think of each sector of your life as being divided even further, with three new sections within one of the three stacked boxes (sectors). Within each stacked box are three separate sections, divided by dotted lines that make up the life path you will follow. These dotted lines are not the same as the solid lines dividing the sectors -- they are a path that you have envisioned since childhood -- a series of goals and pathways to success that you want to follow.

    As young people, these life paths may not be fully formed. Or they might be crystal clear in our minds--long, straight life paths from the early days of college and adult living to the ultimate goal of success that you have always strived for. You can see exactly what you need to do to reach each success indicator and achieve what you have set out to accomplish. And you probably did just this. After all, your goals as a youth were to be successful in the same way that you saw thousands of others live their lives. You wanted to reach your success indicators and experience the measure of success by which you would measure you life for decades to come.

    However, nothing is ever as simple as we envision it during youth. There are countless factors that interfere with your ability to clearly see those success indicators and life paths to success. These factors, or "Environmental Noise," can be detrimental to even the most focused of individuals. Think of what would happen if you dumped the contents of downtown New York into your box and tried to maintain your focus on those goals. Would you even be able to see your life path anymore?

    Everyone must travel their life path with environmental noise inundating them from all sides. It begins to become cloudy. The dotted lines, our life paths, begin to look like the straight lines and the success indicators start to be confused with any number of different distractions.

    And then something will happen and you will realize that you are in fact nowhere near the original success indicators you set for yourself. Everything has changed and yet you are stuck in a way. You are deep within the center of the middle rectangular box and you have no idea which way to go or how to get back on track. The noise only grows louder and you grow dizzy trying to regain your focus.

    It is in this instant that you must clear the noise and return to the basic, almost instinctive mode of thought you experienced as a child. What did you want from life? Where did you want to go? What do you need to get to that point? What was my life path? All of these questions must be asked without the distractions of the world around you muddying up your thought process. When you can revert to a very simple perspective of the world and only spend time thinking of what you want from life, you can be that much more successful.

    You can succeed in life despite the environmental noise, cruising down your life paths and moving through your rectangles with ease, but oftentimes you need a helping hand to clear away the noise and look at life with fresh eyes. There is nothing wrong with asking for help to weed out these distractions and remove the clutter from your life sectors with a professional life coach.

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    Top 10 Benefits to Journaling

    By Bruno Logreco

    There are countless reasons to maintaining a journal. The top ten benefits of journaling may differ from person to person. However, there seems to be general themes that are attractive in the collective unconscious. Many people are looking to daily entries of their personal experiences to reap some of the following rewards.

    Maintaining a journal is a natural way to exercise the brain. People who make regular entries are taking time to develop writing and communication skills that are very valuable in everyday interactions. This mental exercise also helps to allow your thoughts to flow freely.

    Creativity is a second benefit to consider. This is an important aspect of journaling. The right hemisphere of the brain is associated with visual, imaginative and intuitive facets of thought. When you take time to write, you free the right hemisphere. The ideal entry will be one that puts the inner editor on hold. Thoughts and ideas should flow freely and naturally.

    The uninhibited nature of this form of writing serves a third benefit of developing self awareness. People often create different faces to meet various circumstances. We tend to recreate in distinct situations including the work environment, the community and even when at home.

    The process of keeping a journal helps you recognize the various aspects of your unique personality. The growing self awareness is a powerful force that can lead to even greater benefits in the future. Gaining insight into the self is among the most important aspects to maintaining a journal.

    The fourth benefit is the ability to set priorities. Once you get a grasp on the thoughts and emotions that are filtered through your personal experience, you begin to gain control of them. The process eventually leads to a greater understanding of what is and what is not important.

    The ability to re-see the past is another great benefit of keeping a journal. The pages can be revisited with a fresh perspective. It can be very surprising how much your understanding of an event changes over a relatively short period of time. Some writers find great moments of epiphany when rethinking and rereading entries.

    Journaling is a fantastic problem-solving resource. The approach of using entries to come up with various solutions to troubles is a little different than approaches for self awareness and growth. Many people choose temporary brainstorming techniques that serve to give viable solutions to problems.

    The seventh benefit of journaling is variety. You can choose what kind of entries you want to make. Common choices include brainstorming sessions, automatic writing and reflective notes. Personal journal entries can be made upon inspiration, when you first wake or right before you fall asleep. Some choose to do a combination of these.

    Purging is the eighth benefit to this practice. Many people find it helpful to place negative thoughts and feelings down on paper. Once the negative energy is placed on the page, they are free to let it go. This practice also works well when dealing with anger towards another individual. Purge the negativity and work towards a constructive approach.

    The ability to communicate with others is another benefit of keeping a journal. Those who work with life coaches can find a wealth of resources for sessions. Journaling can help you tap into your fears and dreams, helping your coach gain insight through entries that you choose to share.

    The tenth benefit is improvement in your overall health. Journaling reduces stress. It provides time for you to meditate. The process helps to make the positive forces in your life surface and it helps to bring the harmful elements into light. The result of personal journaling is a new perspective on how you can take control of many aspects of your life.

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