Do you ever wonder if the life you lead is really your life? Is your life lacking: Intention, purpose, and goals? Is your childhood dream a past memory? Are you feeling suppressed, depressed and misunderstood? Do you suppress your true feelings? Do you feel disconnected from the person you know lives inside of you? Are you living your life or… the life of another person?
If you answered ‘Yes” to all seven questions it could mean that you are living another person’s life – their intentions and goals. At some point in your life, you unconsciously took on the intention and goals of another person, typically an influencer. The life you once dreamed of is probably different then the one you are living and it’s creating a conflict within you. The end result: stress and depression.
Ask yourself what “suppression” means? Do you know what it means? It means to suppress - voluntary or involuntary, direct restraint on the expression of an instinct. This could happen if you are trying to deal with a situation. You abandon your true self and assume the intentions and goals of another person. This could also happen out of good intention too. Essentially you suffocate the true you, you give up your freewill and power to choose.
So what happened or happens when you suppress your true self:
• You suppress your true intention and goals and you assume another’s identity.
• You resist and create a new identity, but not that of your true self.
• Or you maintain your integrity by being your true self, which implies taking responsibility and acting according to your own identity – Your true intentions and goals.
But, whether you suppress or whether you resist, if there is a direct restraint on the expression of an instinct you will generate emotional charges throughout your life until it is resolved.
Suppression Exercise:
- Become aware when you are around people, which make you feel bad. Notice when you are feeling limited or muted. Write down the scenario – people, conversation, and feelings.
- Become aware of when you are around positive people, which make you feel good, and help you feel better about true self. Write down the scenario –people, conversation and feelings.
- Review the specific reasons why you were left feeling bad or good in each environment. Write down your thoughts and feelings.
- Write your intentions - Likes, dislikes, purposes and goals that are being suppressed?
- Who is suppressing your true self?
- Are you suppressing your own feeling–but originally suppressed by the actions of another person?
- Is your past a present day issue?
4 comments:
hahaha, this topic was JUST on my mind today.
I got to seeing that I have 'changed' who I am to suit somebody else's lifestyle, needs, wants, etc. I completely disregarded myself just to keep from making waves, and then when I wanted to 'be myself' I let the fear of conflict or distance between us get in the way. I feel confident now that I can reach out and be myself now, though.
In my mind, no human being ever lacks purpose. A person only ever lacks awareness of the purpose he knows about deep inside. Through a process of raising awareness, each person has the power and ability to rediscover what that evolving purpose is and why he conceived it.
found your blog through dan's page [you commented] to be honest I wrote my comment, then read your afterwards and noticed we gave similar advice. CHEERS :) glad to see someone else working on themselves.
nameste,
Ali
great post bruno!
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