Your life path can change within a moment. All that is needed is a new perspective, a new vision, a different mindset than you're used to seeing. When you can accept this simple idea your life path will change. New doors will open and a new journey will begin.
Are you stuck inside a box, too afraid of trying something different - Afraid of being judged or perhaps failing and not living up to "someone's" expectations?
Break down the box! Take a chance and try something new and different. If you stay in your current box for much longer you will eventually create another box and that box is a very lonely and depressing one and will consume your thoughts.
The reality is when you become afraid to leave the comfort of your box you are actually giving up your control. Whoever or whatever created those self-defeating false beliefs is what is keeping you stuck inside the box, and still has power over you.
New experiences are the key, which unlock doors leading to self-identity. It's actually part of our natural psychosocial developmental process. What happens when we fail to continue to develop and stop the natural process? We create internal conflict - that’s what happens. Internal conflict is the foundation to the second box - a state of mind deep in thought, reliving almost every negative past experience. That's torturous for the soul because it experiences the emotions all over again as if the experience were happening at this moment.
The mind cannot discern real from fiction. Stimulus is stimulus and the mind has no way of knowing the difference. Imagine reliving all those negative past experiences all day long with nothing else for the mind to see. Yes, physically you are here but mentally and emotionally you are in a state of dualism far away from reality.
By taking chances and by creating new experiences you allow the mind to continue the natural process of development, which by the way never ends. In each developmental stage you must meet the criteria or you might have difficulties fulfilling the criteria for the next stage. By giving up control and fearing new experiences it stops you from learning what you need so you could be successful in life. Long-term avoidance of this natural need will deepen your internal conflict and stump you from achieving true success.
Challenge your beliefs, take back control and break down the box. Those are the benefits you get from living life full of experiences.
Free yourself from dualism. Enjoy the moment! You have nothing to lose except for the box...
A few summers ago I was driving home alone from New York. I was driving on Interstate-90, next to the St. Lawrence River. It’s a beautiful drive – very picturesque in spots. Hillsides lined with trees along the River. In the car I was listening to “Slowly” by Macy Gray.
Would it be so bad if we just stopped for a whileAnd enjoyed the thrills we could all be still let the world just pass us byBut it's all hurry hurry run run there's no time for thisWe want more and more got to win got to score so afraid of what we'll missAnd it moves so fastNothing lasts
By Ivana Pejakovic
Dealing with your stress can be easy enough... once you realize what is stressing you out, that is. Our lives are full of activities, duties, and responsibilities. It is full of things making you rush, hurry, and hustle and bustle. Life, however, does not need to be like this. If you put a filter on what you will accept to be a part of your life, you avoid many of the unnecessary stressors that are destroying the quality of your life.
By Ivana Pejakovic
One of the biggest causes of stress over the Christmas season is gift shopping. Over the years we have started competing to see who can buy the biggest and most expensive gifts. It would appear that sentimentality is no longer necessary in our society. The most memorable gifts, however, have always been and continue to be personalized and free of charge.
if you hear something enough times you begin to believe it?
How many times were you labeled “lazy” or “procrastinator”, how about “dumb ass” or “stupid?” What else might you have been labeled in the past? Take a moment and write down some of those labels onto a piece of paper.
What do you believe about yourself - When you doubt yourself and don’t feel confident in your abilities; when you believe failure is on the horizon and that you’ll be judged for it. What words come to mind? Take a moment and write them down.
Compare the two lists. Did you carry those labels forward to the present?
Are those the same labels stopping you from pursuing a different kind of life - The life you thought you should be living instead of the one you are living?
Are you a perfectionist? Someone who cannot tolerate errors and will go the extra mile to ensure whatever you are working on is perfect?
If you answered ‘Yes’ to the question above, I bet that you also procrastinate. Meaning you spend more time and energy on useless tasks instead of the real important ones. Lets face it useless tasks provide you with a sense of satisfaction – a reward because you can finish them, but those other tasks they take longer and will require much more of your time and energy to achieve, and there is a slight chance you might fail at it, so what’s the point you might think - Right?
According to a 2008 survey released by Canadian Community Health, 53% of adult women and 51% of adult men are not active during their leisure time, if they take any leisure time at all. “There simply isn’t any time left to fit everything into a day”, said Eva Lahman, entrepreneur, wife and mother of two. “I struggle everyday trying to accomplish everything I must do to be successful in business and to take care of my family... Read More
You guys have been great and I appreciate everyone who stops by and takes a moment to read this blog. I know that some of you have been following me since I started down this journey back in 2006, when my writing skills were horrid, but you didn’t care. You were interested in the message rather than my writing skills. I am grateful you stuck with me and continued to come back to read more.
“When we allow ourselves to become vulnerable, to take chances, and to risk our pride, that is when we find our own glory.” ~Richard Corman
I bet the level of stress in your life is mounting right about now. Take it from me, you need to slow down and take a breath. With just a little bit of planning and some time management, you will feel less stressed and more effective while making time for yourself to enjoy the holiday season.
If you are one of those people who believes giving is better than receiving and does a thousand times more for everyone else and nothing for yourself because you think there just isn’t enough time left for, you might want to find time for yourself before January or you won’t have much left to give to others except animosity and anger.
Take a breath and slow down this holiday season. Here are 5 holiday stress tips that will help you do just that.
I meet all kinds of men and women from different walks of life. They come here hoping that I have the ability to help them find happiness in life. For most people, I can turn their hope into reality. I can help almost anyone overcome whatever behavioral issue they are suffering from except for addictions. Additions are not my area of expertise.
Several months ago I met with a very unique young woman. Someone extremely special in her life scheduled a consultation on her behalf. The first time I laid eyes on her, I’ll admit, I was skeptical and unsure if I could affect change in her. She’d been in trouble with the law, diagnosed with several mental disorders and was an addict to boot. More than I was prepared to work with.
The consultation did not last very long, in fact less than 30 minutes. Toward the end of the meeting after bombarding her with dozens of questions I decided that she wasn’t a good candidate for my life coaching program. Right before I was about to deliver my decision to her, she broke down and started to cry. She looked up at me with her teary blue eyes and in a state of vulnerability and said, “please help me." My heart sank. For the first time in the 30 minutes that we were together, I had finally felt her energy. It was a light, tingling sensation followed by warmth. It was an odd sensation, it led me to say, “This is the way it’s going to work. You screw up one time, you miss one session, you fall off the wagon and you are out. You must agree to and commit yourself to a rehabilitation program, and you must be enrolled before we can begin. Do I make myself clear?” She looked at me and said, "I promise, I will do whatever it takes."
It’s that time of year again when family and friends gather to share experiences and to celebrate the festive season. It is also that time of year stress and anxiety shoots up and goes through the roof for many people.
We all have in-laws and extended family that believe they know better. It doesn‘t matter if they don’t have any experience or knowledge in the subject matter being discussed, they insist on being right and you wrong regardless of any experience and knowledge that you might have. And the funny thing about it all is, even if you did produce facts to support your position they will still disagree with you.
Mother Theresa once said, “When you are confident in you and what you speak of, it won’t matter what anyone else says or does, you won’t bat an eyelash.”
What would you do if you went to a therapist for help and after a few sessions he says to you, “There is no help for you, there isn’t anything anyone could do for you to help you with your problems. You are on your own.” What would you do if your therapist said that to you?
That’s exactly what happened to Sonia. Sonia poured her heart and soul into telling her therapist everything that had happened throughout life to her. She hoped and preyed to find someone who would understand and could help her, but she had no such luck with this therapist. Could you imagine how she felt at that moment? She walked away feeling crushed.
“Oh my God! A professional just told me there’s no help for me. They were right – all of them. I am a crazy, loud woman. I’m useless.”Can you blame her for wanting to sabotage her life? She believed there was no possibility for help. How does she go about finding a better life after someone who’s supposed to be able to help her says there is no hope for her?
Tri-Commitment to Success is finally here. It has taken me many years to produce what I feel is the best personal development workshop in the industry. I have taken the best tools, which I’ve been using in my life coaching practice since I first started coaching professionally.
Before I was a professional life coach I was a business coach. In my last corporate job before I became an entrepreneur I worked for a Fortune 500 Pharmaceutical company. There I coached employees to become more effective in their role. Even if I knew they were in the wrong role. My job was to help them improve their skill set so they can function at a higher capacity, regardless of their strengths and weaknesses.
With both professional and personal coaching experience I was able to take the best of the best and create a solid program to help men and women from all walks of life see what they alone cannot see.
I believe knowledge is power, and when you can see reality right before your eyes, you take different decisions - choices you did not believe were available to you. And once you can see what you were once blind to your life will take on a whole new meaning.
I have to admit, as an entrepreneur, wife, mother and big picture thinker, my life is not always in balance. In fact, lately, I have been totally out of whack. I have been behind on a deadline, my husband and I have barely been able to throw out a quick hello in between work and kid stuff and my kids have been sick – not to mention... Read More
A challenge developed to help my clients reinforce core values, was a challenge that in the end strengthened my own belief about the significance of traveling foreign terrain... Read More
Becoming a professional life coach was the best thing I ever did. My job is highly rewarding. No other job gives you the satisfaction and the sense of accomplishment that life coaches get after an enlightening session. When a client leaves with a smile on her face and with her body language screaming, “Life will never be the same”, you know you are in the right profession. What other job do you know of which could give you that level of satisfaction?
A few weeks ago I implemented a new challenge into my U-Turn Life Coaching program. The challenge is designed to reinforce core values, overcome fear, and to prove anything is possible if you take one step at a time. The challenge proved to be extremely effective and successful. I witnessed lives change right before my eyes. It was incredible to see mindsets plagued by years of negative experiences dissolve, and replaced with renewed hope and dreams.
Witnessing those experiences only makes me want to create more for myself. So now I am onto my next challenge. I am challenging myself to raise the bar. Just as I tell coachees, “be true to yourself, you already know who you are. Look them in the eye and show them you are the Master of Your Own Domain.” Well the time has come for me to bump it up a notch and to really master my domain.
I have a vision of what could be. A stage in the middle of a football field with thousands of onlookers getting inspired and motivated. I hear loud applauds, chants and laughter. I am in the zone and this is the place to be. Right now its just a dream but I know if I take one step at a time I will get closer and closer to the dream and one day I will realize it.
Walking about six miles a week appears to protect against brain shrinkage in old age, which in turn helps stem the onset of memory problems and cognitive decline, new research reveals... continue reading
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I did it. I climbed a 4-story wall. It was nerving to say the least but I successfully climbed all the way to the top without chickening-out. YIPEEE!
About a month ago Ivana our Teen Coach & Research Director, and me, took belaying lessons. We hired an instructor to teach us how to put on a harness, tie knots and figure 8’s, and everything else we must know to keep everyone safe. After learning the safety rules of rock climbing it was time to climb. The first wall we climbed wasn’t all that high – 12 feet at best. It wasn’t difficult. But then we moved over to a very tall wall, 4-stories high. I climbed half way to the top when suddenly I began to sweat. And not just ordinary common sweat – I sweat profusely. There was no way I was climbing to the top – not that day. So I asked to be lowered back down to the ground.
One month later and after a few self-coaching techniques designed to help me overcome my fear of heights I was back on that very same wall. Half way up the wall and again I wanted to climb back down to safety.“NO”, I said to myself, “you’re a life 
coach, you can do it.” I stopped and gathered my thoughts and asked myself, “What would you tell your clients to do if they wanted to come back down?” I’d say, “take one step at a time. Don’t look up and don’t look down. Keep your eyes glued in front of you. You can do it.” So I mustered all the courage I could find and took my own advice. One step at a time I finally climbed all theway to the top of the wall. I DID IT!!
Every single person successfully climbed the wall yesterday without a problem. Some of my clients climbed multiple times and went on to climb even more challenging walls. As for myself, I climbed the wall a total of 7 times by the time the day was over. And with each climb it did get easier and easier just like anything else in life, which is difficult at first. A little bit of experience and practice makes everything easy.
Many of us experience fear and only a hand full of us actually does something with it.
Fear is simply an illusion. It’s an image we have in our mind of the worst case scenario that hasn’t happened. The image is based on past experiences or even hearsay – someone’s opinion that stuck in our mind. It’s an irrational thought of something happening that could harm, embarrass or ruin our image. And so we dare not attempt it for the fear for what could happen.
I’ve always had a fear for heights. A few years ago I had to learn a method to overcome my fear for heights. At one point in my life bridges scared the crap out of me. It was a serious problem because I drive cross boarder so I had to overcome my fear. However, climbing walls, 4 stories high isn’t something I’ve learned to overcome yet. But today I will need to do just that – overcome my fear for heights once again.
Today we’re going rock climbing with clients who are at the end of their life coaching program. I developed a technique to help clients reinforce their core values, but it involv
es climbing tall walls. So before I make clients climb the wall, I need to be able to lead by example and climb it first.
Just in case a few of us are afraid and cannot climb the wall to the top on the first attempt, I am prepared with a few techniques to recondition what we see within our mind.
Come back tomorrow to check out some of the pictures from today’s rock climbing event.
Bruno LoGreco Master Life Coach Toronto
Guess whose back? I got the writing bug again. I drifted into facebook world, writing a blurb everyday for my status update. It was quicker than writing a blog, which could take me a few hours and sometimes days to write. But I miss it. I miss writing whatever comes to my mind. I miss writing about nothing. All the articles I do write these days are about something and not for use on this blog. So HERE I am.
For my return post I do want to write about nothing, just a brain dump of everything that has happened over the past few weeks. Wait until I tell you about my big blunder. I screwed up again. I made a mistake - the same mistake I made 3 years ago. But I'll come back to that in a little bit.
I spent the end of September and the first few days into October in New York. While I was there I experienced EXTREME anxiety for the first time in my life. On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being severe - my anxiety was at level 10 for 7 consecutive days 24 hours around the clock. All I felt is anxiety. It was horrible. I hated every minute of it. But I learned many things while it was happening.
Here is a list of things I did to overcome my severe anxiety.
Canadians think lunch is a luxury they don't have time for, says survey: "Mississauga, ON - The majority of Canadians (85%) agree lunch is an important part of healthy eating, yet one-in-five (19%) Canadians don’t have time for lunch and skip it entirely, according to a recent Angus Reid survey for ConAgra Foods Canada. "
Although self-change is challenging, it is not impossible. You may know many people that have changed certain areas in their lives. Some of these people may have been successful in keeping the change and some less successful. Some appeared to be truly happy with the change and others appeared to be still searching for more. So, what is the difference between the two groups: the group of people who sustain changes in their life and the group of people who return back to their old lifestyle?
The major difference is the group who kept their change made a meaningful change in their life, whereas the other group made just a change in their life. To make change meaningful, it is important that you know what you want to change, why you want to change, and that YOU chose what it is you will change. It is also important you want to change for yourself and not for your loved ones or for external approval.
Many people change themselves based on how others want them to be or to achieve a certain status in society. This type of change in not meaningful change; it has no personal meaning and will not give you the results you were hoping to achieve.
So how can you make a meaningful change? The answer of course lies is self-awareness. You need to be aware of your core values and your core beliefs. Your values form the foundation for your behaviour and everything that you bring into your life. Your core beliefs determine your thoughts, decisions, and the emotions you experience.
Have you tried to change something in your life only to make no progress or to sabotage the headway you have made? The answer to your failure likely lies in whether you know what drives your behaviour and if you know how your core beliefs affect the way you think and what you chose to change.
Achieving permanent change will be difficult unless you become attentive to yourself and learn what is important to you, how you think, and what motivates you. To achieve permanent change you need to make personally meaningful change. Letting others decide or tell you what you need to change will not work and it will not make you happy. It is your job to decide what you want to improve in your life.
Take the time to learn who you are. It is a good idea to participate in programs that concentrate on self-awareness. The professionals heading these programs will teach you what techniques to use and what emotions you need to pay attention to. The time you invest in yourself will help you create meaningful change in your life. It will help you make changes that stick and changes that bring positive outcomes in your life.
Bruno LoGreco, Toronto Life Coach, Author & Television Personality
What do you suppose you would be today if you did not have anybody telling you what you could and could not do while you were growing up? Where would you be today if you had your very own personal cheerleaders, as opposed to critics, during your teen years?
While growing up, family and other authoritative figures, like coaches and teachers, play a big role in how we think about ourselves and who we become. The adults around us usually shape us into the people we become. Often times their insecurities and beliefs get transferred to us and we end up living a life with similar philosophies, similar achievements, and similar habits to the people we grew up around.
As teens, many of us just accepted what we were told as the truth and we believed others knew what was best for us (not surprising since we often heard the words “I know best” from our elders). Being young, inexperienced, and confused about where we should go, others’ advice may even have been quite welcoming. More importantly, taking others' advice helped avoid confrontation.
It didn’t take long however, to start wondering if there is more to life than the unfulfilling routine we fell into. To many of us, waking up, going to work that doesn’t make us happy, coming home, taking care of home responsibilities, and going to bed, only to wake up the next day and go through it all over again is extremely unsatisfactory. Most likely, this is the same path we saw our mothers and other adult role models travel. We now grew up and adapted their life philosophy.
The good news is that there really is more to life than the routine we fell into. Life can be very fulfilling when we start paying attention to what makes us happy and what activities interest us. We were all born with a purpose in life that is meant to be fulfilled. To fulfill this purpose, however, we often have to leave the path we are currently on and step onto the path that was meant for us.
Stepping onto our own path typically causes resistance from others. While they may be looking out for our best interest, they may not necessarily understand the inspiration guiding us. This inspiration, however, is the force leading us to a place where life is all that it can be. It is up to you to decide what path you want to travel and where you want to go.
Bruno LoGreco Life Coach Toronto, Author & Television Personality
Are you willing to take the first step today to get you closer to your ideal life?
Many times we say that tomorrow is the perfect time to start working towards our goal, right after we get today’s chores and responsibilities out of the way.
Unfortunately, tomorrow brings a new set of responsibilities and duties causing us to wait for the arrival of another tomorrow before we may start working towards our goal. Before we know it, 50 years pass by and we are still waiting for tomorrow to arrive so that we may start working towards our dreams and hopes.
Does this sound familiar? Have you ever waited for the freshness of a new day to come so you may start working towards success only to find the new day is never quite “fresh” enough to start working towards fulfilling your dreams?
One of the most common issues people face is taking action. Reading self-development literature, watching videos, and talking to others interested in self-help will only take you so far. Knowing how to fulfill your goals will not fulfill your goals. Taking action today (not waiting for a ‘right’ kind of tomorrow), will bring you closer to your dreams and will eventually guide you to your ideal life.
The best way to take action is to first plan out what you want to achieve and the steps you want to take each day to move yourself closer to success. Having a clear outline set out before you will let you know exactly what you need to do each day and it will allow you to measure your progress. Having day to day plans also simplifies your goal. Vague plans tend to appear intimidating and are more likely to be put off. Daily plans will also make it easier for you to be accountable to yourself for not completing today’s step.
Although today may not feel right to begin working towards your new goal you will find that no day will be ‘right enough’ to take the steps to bring you closer to your ideal life. Don’t worry about today not being the perfect day. Instead, focus on the perfection of how it will feel when you achieve your dreams. This will encourage you to take the first step today.
Bruno LoGreco, Toronto Life Coach, Author & Television Personality
What do you think about from day to day? Researchers say that we have about 60 000 thoughts per day. 90% of these thoughts are repeat thoughts from the day before! This fascinating result suggests that many of our thoughts are habitual. Most likely, we are not even aware of what we are thinking and as a result we are unable to detect patterns in our thoughts. For example, if you do not think you are smart enough to present a new solution to your boss at work today, chances are you will not think you are smart enough to solve a complicated problem tomorrow, or smart enough to create a new business, and so on. Unfortunately, many people are not aware of their day to day thoughts and eventually start to believe their thoughts are facts.
If you are to make any sort of change in our life, you first must clean up any thoughts that decrease your chances of success. Without changing your thoughts you cannot become who you want to be. You are literally able to do and become anything you want, if you are willing to open your mind and accept new positive facts about yourselves and your abilities. Your potential is enormous, if only you are willing to let go of old beliefs and thoughts and start believing you are capable of anything you want. Decide who you want to be and let go of any thoughts that say otherwise. These thoughts are false beliefs and their only purpose is to hold you back from being who you want to be.
Bruno LoGreco Life Coach Toronto, Author & Television Personality
Despite the fact that many of us are quick to compare ourselves to societal standards many of us don’t realize how often we think poorly of ourselves or of what this can cost us.
Many of us suffer from feelings of inferiority in many areas of our lives. Whether we compare ourselves on our ability to speak multiple languages, our fitness level, our level of attractiveness, our ability to sing, our ability as a parent, or our ability to do our job, it appears that we can never quite measure up to others.
Newly divorced Zahava doesn't want to grow up and take responsibility for her life. On her own for the first time in years, and headed for '40' it's time for this pink haired rebel dressed mom to get serious and re-invent herself. In this episode Zahava goes from being laughed at to definitely getting the last laugh.
Are you tired from doing nothing but lounging at home and surfing the Internet hoping to find the perfect thing for you to do; that “perfect” something where you will feel like you fit in and feel comfortable to be yourself? Staying home alone and doing nothing except surfing the Internet is a sure way for you to feel detached from the real world. You might be surfing the Internet for a very long time before you find that “perfect” something.
Trying to find where you fit in over the Internet and not in the real world is making matters worse. Stop making excuses for why you can’t do something in the real world because subconsciously each excuse adds greater value onto a developing self-defeating and self-sabotaging belief system. Find where you fit in within the real world. You could start from where you are at right now - in your home.
Actions speak louder than words.
Self confidence is the foundation for success. Everything you are and everything you do depends on your self esteem. Your sense of worth forms the basis of your inner stability, your outer personality; and fuels your performances. Self confidence is not about beating your own drum or trumpeting your supremacy to the world. It is a quiet strength that comes from self-acceptance and inner contentment.
Self confidence:
• defines your self-worth
• provides a positive outlook on life and yourself
• defines how you acknowledge your inner strengths and weaknesses.
• provides the ability to accept the reality of your circumstances
• provides the courage to face your challenges
• proves your suitability for life’s tasks and situations.
• provides the foundation for happiness, well-being, and success.
• makes you more attractive to yourself and others
• makes you a better partner, lover and friend
To build your confidence you first have to know yourself. That process involves taking a thorough and honest look within to acknowledge the strengths humility may prevent you from accepting, and the faults that humiliation might prevent you from admitting. Self awareness is the only path that can lead to your desired success and beyond. Without it you are simply tilting at windmills following a quest that is both delusional and ineffective.
Its that time of year again. Back To School! The commercials started airing already this past week and soon mom’s, dad’s and children will be running and hopping, back and forth looking like chickens with their head cut off trying to get everything ready at the last minute. Don’t wait until the end of the month to get everything you need ready for the start of a new school year. Now is a good time to plan for it.
Here I am. I disappeared for a little bit. I am taking a break from blogging to enjoy the summer season. The weather has been incredibly nice this summer and I am taking advantage of it. As I look at the calendar, tomorrow is the beginning of August and soon “Back To School” commercials will dominate the airwaves. So before it’s all over and I myself return to school, I want to enjoy every moment of it while I can.
Just last week I released the latest edition of my newsletter. Within it I talk about the projects I am working on for this upcoming Fall. The project that has me most excited, besides pursuing a degree in psychology, I am finally launching Discover The Diamond Within – Behind The Illusion. The workshop I’ve been working on for a few years. Sign up for my newsletter by visiting my website at: www.brunologreco.com
Discover The Diamond Within – Behind The Illusion is designed to increase awareness and to unveil and accept the true person behind the illusion – rather than the person we so badly want others to see. Everyone will leave feeling confident when answering, “Who Am I?”
Here is just a taste of the self-discovery participants will embark upon when they attend:
Expectation do nothing but destroy relationships. Let go of your expectations and accept people for who they are and you will develop long lasting relationships. Try to control your relationships with expectations and you will find yourself feeling hurt, angry and even disrespected.
1. Make a list of people in your life.
2. Next to each person make another list of what you expect from the individual.
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For each person you listed with an expectation answer the following question:
1. Why do you feel entitled to expect that of this person?
2. What power do you have over this person to influence this control?
3. What benefit do you get from trying to control this person?
4. What benefit will you get if you let go of the need to control this person?
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1. Do you recognize any behavioural patterns?
2. Does anything surprise you?
3. Is letting go of control a development area for you?
Bruno LoGreco life coach, toronto mentor & author
Self-Confidence is a state of being. It is a feeling of certainty about your abilities, decisions and judgment. It comes from within you and nobody else could give it to you. Its knowing who you are and what you stand for. It is a combination of morals, ethics, values and strengths.
How well do you know yourself?
Bruno LoGreco professional life coach, author and motivational speaker
Right now is all that matters. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow will only be as good as you make it at this moment. What you do right now could change your future. Take the first step towards the things you want and I guarantee you will get it. Do nothing, and today will look a lot like yesterday. ~Bruno LoGreco
Commitment is a state of being. It is dedication and follow-through of an action or task to conclusion irrespective of the outcome. It is the act of scheduling time to execute the commitment to completion. It is an obligation you owe to yourself which will lead you to ultimate success.
Bruno LoGreco Professional Life Coach, Author & Television Personality
Opportunity is everywhere. If you focus on your goals and have a direction just look carefully and you will find opportunity in abundance but, if you have nothing happening and lack direction you won't see opportunity even if smacks you in the head. Bruno LoGreco, toronto life coach, motivational speaker
Complete your life with more than just a career and family. Ignite the flame in your marriage by doing something romantic with your partner. Take-up a hobby and learn something new. Add physical activity into your daily routine. Don't just sit there and do nothing anymore - GET UP and LIVE your life!
What am I doing? I am sipping on coffee asking myself, who will benefit from SWITCH To Your True Self -- which is the workshop I am launching this coming September?
The workshop is designed for anyone who wants to discover his or her authentic self but is afraid of what they will discover. They have illusions that distort what the future looks like. They fear how other might perceive them and strive to live-up to social, cultural and religious norms, which conflict with there true self.
It is for those who want to change their self-defeating and limiting behavior. For those who lack confidence and self-esteem because they feel worthless and insignificant. These kinds of false beliefs keep them captive within a small box – one that they built for themselves so they can feel safe and could predict most outcomes.
It is also for those who lack direction and don’t know which way to go next. They feel stuck, unhappy and face a lot of uncertainty and they also believe they have little if any success at all.
In a nutshell SWITCH To Your True Self is for anyone who has a desire to discover the true meaning of life. To live the life they were born to live. Becoming one with self without limitations or judgment – It is for those who dare to live a Happy and Fulfilled Life.
Giving up on tasks, which seem difficult and that pose a potential failure, will only develop a false sense of self while reinforcing negative, self-defeating behaviors. It is these behaviors, which are at the root of most perceived failures and regret in life.
Ask yourself, Why did I give up? Did I find the task too difficult, was it out of my comfort zone, maybe I lacked the skill set to achieve it successfully. What did I tell myself so it would be okay to give-up?
When you give-up on tasks regardless of the reason, what you are doing is accepting defeat and confirming the underlying belief, “I am not good enough.” This false sense of self, albeit untrue, will limit the amount of success you will achieve in life.
Did you ever write about nothing? What I mean by that is rather than planning what you will write you just start writing the first thing that pops into your mind. Sometimes I get the urge to write but I don’t always want to write about personal development or life coaching techniques. I also enjoy writing bout nothing.
Oddly enough when I do write posts about nothing, more often than not when I finish writing they turn into something. The message may not always be clear but it doesn’t always need to be.
Writing is a source of expression, it is a form of art. When I first started to write/blog I was judgmental about the output and I would try to refine and edit the article before publishing it. But not long after I realized that I could write anything that pops into mind because it is a form of art and my way of seeing the world.
The world is an ambiguous place so I feel my messages also need to be ambiguous sometimes. Different strokes for different folks – everyone sees the world in the way they see it. Although I might believe I am writing about nothing a reader might find something within the nothing. So really, who am I to say that this post is really about nothing?
My mind is now drawing a blank. There is nothing left for me to say about this post about nothing. I am curious, though, what did you get from this post?
Working towards a goal is something most of us do regularly. We just don’t realize it most of the time because there is a level of desire. So we are not conscious of the amount of work that goes into it even if it’s a substantial amount.
Going to work everyday is a goal not in our conscious mind because we established the goal the first day we started our job. The goal: Get to work on time. Then based on the length of time it takes to travel to work from home is factored into the amount of time it takes to get ready and to tend to any other personal responsibilities, which are also goals. Based on this information you develop a plan and perform according to it. The reward is a bi-weekly or monthly paycheck.
We’ve even established long-term goals – goals that take up to two to three years to achieve. Do you remember when you got your drivers license? I remember when I got mine, twenty days after I turned age 16. A significant amount of planning took place before I turned 16 – the legal age to drive, then. From the first time I drove a car to when I was fully licensed took about 2 years. How long did you prepare before you got your license, how bad did you want it?
What about first time homebuyers, are they goal oriented? You bet they are. They know exactly how much they can afford with expenses and how long it will take to save for a down payment. They then save and track their progress until they reach their goal. The reward is a new home.
So why can’t we take the same formula and apply it to the things we dream about – our passions? The answer, because it comes down to how badly we want it – do we have a burning desire for it? Without your bi-weekly or monthly paycheck, where would you be, would you be able to survive? What does a driver’s license represent to teenagers, why are most of us successful at obtaining it? How about first time homebuyers who didn’t have a penny in savings before planning to buy a home and now own a home?
Life gets boring when you confine it to a box. I have never been one to conform to any box but most recently I went looking for myself, oddly enough I found me in a box.
There was a time when I did not edit my writing. I just wrote whatever flowed. Grammar is a weakness so checking for grammar is kind useless when you really don’t know what you’re looking for. Accepting grammar as my weakness allowed me to express myself without judgment. Yeah, I’ve panicked a number of times after reading an older post and realizing the amount of incorrect words, grammatical errors and more, but at least I was able to get my message out and that to me is a creative expression – without limitations – nothing stopping you for authentically expressing yourself.
I’ve been very committed and focused with my life coaching practice. 4 years ago when I decided to become a professional life coach, I knew I had to take the leap of faith and to never look back. I was 100% confident and certain this was my life path. From that moment it was my mission to succeed. The one and only thing I knew going into this was the true definition of success: "To start and to finish what you set off to do." How could I ever give up?
Bogging in the beginning I used so I could dump whatever thought I had at that moment. Anything from personal development workshops, Ideas, emotions, life coaching tools, my personal journey - anything that popped into mind at that moment is what I’d write about. It wasn’t linked to www.brunologreco.com, not at first. I wasn’t sure if I was okay with potential clients reading my chicken scratch. My writing skills improved over the years just like any other skill - if you practice it enough sooner or later you get better at it, and so I linked it to my website.
But more than potential clients are reading this blog, it is being read by others who might be interested in a life coach for other reasons. Production companies seeking a life coach to appear on a television show, producers needing to fill airtime for radio – schools looking for a student mentor – and for many more reasons.
So for many more reasons I started to believe at some point that I should only put out quality posts with substance. That I should check my grammar and if I’m not qualified to check it then hire someone who is. I should make sure I finish a thought and tie everything together. I should follow a format and stick to it. I should…
So today I decided to cut the box open and to write whatever comes to mind without any limitations and not care about who might be reading it. Although now that I am close to the end of the post – which I will not edit, I see there is a purpose to it, possibly many.
Finding your life path is much easier when you have a life coach to support you. They know how to keep you focused, committed and on target even when you can’t see the forest through the trees.
Daily life is confusing and frustrating enough without having to know how to navigate through thick bush in order to find your life path. With so much happening everyday in your life already – responsibilities, career, social and family matters, by the time you sit down at the end of the day there isn’t enough time or energy left in you to whack bushes to go and find it.
Life Coaches are trained to see what you cannot see. Locating the center of the circle when you are in it is difficult. A life coach can look into your circle and pinpoint the center for you with ease because they can see the things that blind you. They see the self imposed limitation and false beliefs – the illusions stopping you from moving forward in a direction that serves you best.
Coaches support and guide you as you discover your true identity. They have tools to help identify your core values, your strengths and weaknesses. The very skills you will need to become successful in both your professional and personal lives.
They help develop your self-awareness - the ability to choose between positive and negative behavior - How to express emotions without the burden of shame, and how to get the things you want by being assertive - not aggressive.
Life Coaches are inspirational and motivating, they know how to boost your confidence and self-esteem - how to make you feel good about yourself even when nobody else seems to understand whom you are.
The benefits of life coaching are endless. You don’t have to go through another day trying to see the forest through the trees especially when you can’t see through the tall bush right before you. Your life path is a lot closer than you believe it is and working with a life coach can put you on that path in just a few sessions.
I need a venue to speak aloud at. I feel a bit shaken today. After many weeks and months of feeling on top of my game working towards my goals and accomplishing quite a bit - I am feeling blue. I don’t know anyone who can stay on top of his or her game for 365 days without coming down to check on the valley from time-to-time.
Coming down and spending a day in the valley isn’t such a bad thing. Typically I let myself go through it. I don’t try to talk myself into being stronger or busying myself with useless tasks. I allow whatever I am feeling go through its process without my interference. But when I am down for two days it means I need to take a look at what is happening in my life and reevaluate it.
Having the ability to probe into your life and to identify what is bothering you and putting it in its compartment will ensure it doesn’t spill over into other aspect of your life. Its a form of self life coaching. You take the appropriate measure to address the issue and move on without causing a disturbance. It isn’t as much fun as it is to create a big to do about nothing, which typically is what we do.
Now that I have the root cause in view, I could see why I feel blue. At least now I have a smile on my face. I want to be upset but I know I can’t because I remember making a consciously choice to my current day situation. I knew then that this day might arrive. I did plan to avoid this day but it hasn’t happened yet – but it will and hopefully soon.
I needed to see it with my own two eyes – not just in my minds eye.
A new star is born...
Bruno LoGreco life coach, toronto mentor & motivational speaker
I keep saying how much I love life and how beautiful it is. I’ve always believed that life is extraordinary even from childhood. I knew then that one day I would discover the secret to life and soar all the way to the top – meaning that I will be the best at whatever I do and from it I will live the life I dream. What I didn’t know was that I already knew the secret.
I spent a lot of time roaming hallways when I worked in the corporate world. I couldn’t fathom the idea of working for a company until I was 65 so I could enjoy my senior years in retirement. It just didn’t make any sense to me, so I’d roam the hallways thinking of ways to work for myself. I thought of everything I could possibly imagine. I read book after book hoping to find something interesting enough for me to get excited - something that would utilize my existing skills. Every book turned up empty. In fact I knew most of what I read – It was common sense to me.
If you believe something for long enough it eventually becomes reality. I believed life is extraordinary from the get-go so I am not surprised that I am in love with life. Even during my days of conflict I still had hope in me. I am grateful I did because here I am today armed with a wealth of knowledge and with the secret.
I had a burning desire to find the secret and to use it to my advantage. I knew my success would depend largely on my commitment so I never lost sight of what I was looking for. Although it was right there the entire time I couldn’t see it because I didn’t believe it was possible for me to know it already.
I also believe nothing good ever comes easy because if it did we would take it for granted and not appreciate it. I knew the secret for a very long time and because I didn’t have to work for it it wasn’t valuable enough for me to use.
Life takes on a whole new meaning when you apply the secret to it. Everything changes right before your eyes – obstacles turn into stimulation and ideas turn into a burning desire.
Bruno LoGreco, life coach, toronto mentor & motivational speaker
Are you one of those people that believe you don’t have a single ounce of creativity in you? If you believe that you are not creative and that you don’t draw or paint or something like that - essentially what you are saying is, I trust and believe my negative thinking – it serves me well. Are you sure that is what you want to believe?
“Aha! I tricked you. I tricked you into believing that you’re not good enough and that you don’t have what it takes to make it. And you fell for it! Aha!!!”
