I keep telling everyone, what you think you want and what you really want are two different things. Some of them believe me, and will want to learn and discover what they really want, but some question and tell me, they already have what they really want. And that could be the case, but I ask them: How do you really know what you want?
There is 365 days a year, 24 hours in one day, and 60 minutes in every hour. How many experiences, bad or good, do you think you’ve had in your lifetime? How many triumphs, success, perceived failures, and bad relationships did you experience? How much of those experiences influence your decisions today? And, how much of what you already have today was influenced by those experiences? So I ask again - How do you really know what you want?
The older you get the more difficult it will become to remember each experience and the effects. There will be simply too many to remember. Some of those experiences will be fresh in your mind while others will be a distant memory, although, the effects could be expressed at any moment.
A Life Map could be the secret to learning what you really want. There are different kinds of maps, which could be used, to discover different things about you and your life. There are many purposes to using one. You could use one to write your autobiography, recognize behavioral patterns, or to discover what you really want throughout your lifetime.
Go back in time and map your successes, if you identify a pattern it could pave the path to your next career. Map your perceived failures and you could stumble upon a treasure chest of tools and lessons. Map your failed relationships and you could learn the reason why your relationships aren’t working.
1. Think back to your childhood and make a list of all your success.
a. Next to each success write the age you were.
2. Think back to when you were a teenager. What challenges did you face?
a. Next to each challenge write the age you were.
3. Reflect back to your perceived failures. What are they?
a. Next to each experience write the age you were.
4. On a blank piece of paper draw a horizontal line at the bottom of the page. At the "left" end of the line enter Age 1. At the "right" end of the line enter your current age. This will be your life line. Now draw 3 lines to create 3 rows, one for each category: Success, Challenge, and Perceived Failure.
When you finish mapping your experiences ask yourself the following questions:
- What did I learn about myself?
- Do I recognize any patterns?
- Am I surprised by anything I see on my life map?
- Am I okay if I continue to attract the same things into my life?
- What must I do to change any negative pattern?
- Do I really have what I want?
- What behavior can I commit to developing this year?
4 comments:
What a great exercise, Bruno! I want to try this.
Have fun with it San. Your life map could take any shape, it doesn't have to be linear. Enjoy!
Hi Bruno!! with all my moving and buying new computer I had lost your link....along with many others!!
I am only just getting organised again...so your comment on my blog was timely:) I could do to read some of your guidance again!
Lovely to hear from you and I am placing you back in my blog list right now!! Have a wonderful start to a wonderful year:)
Welcome back, Nola! 2010 promises to be a wonderful year. It sounds like you are off to a great start. I look forward to catching up and reading your posts. Have a great weekend!
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