Good morning to everyone, and welcome to the unofficial close of the summer season. Today is September 2nd, the first day of school for many, and my first day back to blogging.
So much has happened since I last posted a blog at the beginning of August. Let me start with my uneventful trip to New York. For those of you who read this blog regularly, you will know that I once feared heights, acrophobia is the correct name. If you recall there was one particular bridge that would put me into a frenzy each time I approached its metal structure. I'm happy to report the last time I crossed the bridge the conversation I had with myself was quite different than past conversations I've had about crossing the bridge. The conversation I had with myself on the last trip went something like this: "Remind me why I'm afraid of this bridge... the scenery down below is spectacular. I can't believe I was afraid to cross this bridge before."
Although I was not blogging these past three weeks, I was still providing my life coaching services to clients in both Toronto and New York. I find it very interesting how people in Toronto are far different than those in New York. New Yorker's have a bit more noise in their life, about 3x greater than those living in Toronto. That's due largely because of the sheer size of New York. New Yorkers prefer therapy, while Torontonians prefer Life Coaches. Why the difference? That is what I will try to explain over the next couple of weeks.
Lots to come in the next couple of days/weeks. New style of writing, new coaching ideas and concepts, new tools to learn how to deal with fears, anxiety and depression among other emotions. Over the next couple of weeks I will be focusing on the Inner Child, Ego and awareness.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
He's back...
Ten Powerful Self-Coaching Tips
Are you living the life of creativity and happiness that you've always dreamed of, or are you allowing your fears or other outside factors to influence you?
Following the path that your heart's desires requires courage and might require a shift in attitude. There are several methods you can use to act as your own life coach and start working toward the life you dream of.
Ideas for self-improvement
You don't need to change every aspect of your life at once in order to improve your attitude and outlook on life. Self-improvement can feel daunting if you try to change everything at once.
A good way to embark on your journey of self-coaching is to make one change and see what kind of impact it has upon your life. The following tips are designed to help you improve your life and become your own life coach. Try out one of the following tips at a time to positively impact your attitude and daily life.
1. Find some ‘you' time. Everyone needs time alone to meditate and recharge. You may think you don't have extra time in your day. Start with 10-20 minutes to use for meditation or silent reflection.
2. Ask yourself what you truly want in life. Are you living your life according to your true dreams and desires? You may be unaware of your desires that lie hidden beneath your surface needs and wants, so take the time to find out.
3. Write everything down. Even if your thought seems silly, write it down! You may be surprised by the inspiration and ideas you can come up with.
4. Journal daily, but with a twist. Instead of just writing about today, try writing about yesterday.
5. Keep track of the "happy moments." Each day has potential for many small moments that bring joy and happiness. If you don't make a special note of them, you may not even recognize the small joys in your day.
6. Choose one task each night to complete the next day. This way, you have focus, and you accomplish at least one task. Tasking and taxing yourself with effort is important in reaching goals.
7. Smile when you wake up. Smiling is contagious. By smiling you improve your mood and can potentially improve someone else's day as well.
8. Give thanks each night. Gratitude will improve your outlook on life and help you see all the good and wonderful moments of your day.
9. Try something new. A new experience fuels creativity and your enjoyment of the day.
10. Create at least one memorable moment each day. Make each day unforgettable, even if in a small way!
Taking the next step with a life coach
Self-coaching tips are great ideas for helping you improve your life. However, you can take your life to the next level with a life coach and mentor. A professional life coach can help you set goals and help you move forward with your dreams. If you're looking for the right path toward happiness, a life coach can help you discover the path your heart truly desires.
Want to learn more about self-improvement? Bruno LoGreco is a Life Coach Toronto and mentor. Visit BrunoLoGreco.com and find out how to unleash your potential for success and happiness.
The Success Indicators on Your Life Path
A good way to think of this problem is to envision a large square box. This is not just any box though. Rather, in this case, your box has been divided into three separate, but equally shaped rectangular boxes, all stacked on top of one another. Each of these rectangular boxes is a highly important expression of your life goals -- individual levels of success. Within each of these levels of success is an indicator that tells you how close you are to becoming successful in this area of your life.
Every area of your life that you identify as a potential path for success can be further divided, containing the many different events and obstacles you will encounter as you strive to reach your goals. Think of each sector of your life as being divided even further, with three new sections within one of the three stacked boxes (sectors). Within each stacked box are three separate sections, divided by dotted lines that make up the life path you will follow. These dotted lines are not the same as the solid lines dividing the sectors -- they are a path that you have envisioned since childhood -- a series of goals and pathways to success that you want to follow.
As young people, these life paths may not be fully formed. Or they might be crystal clear in our minds--long, straight life paths from the early days of college and adult living to the ultimate goal of success that you have always strived for. You can see exactly what you need to do to reach each success indicator and achieve what you have set out to accomplish. And you probably did just this. After all, your goals as a youth were to be successful in the same way that you saw thousands of others live their lives. You wanted to reach your success indicators and experience the measure of success by which you would measure you life for decades to come.
However, nothing is ever as simple as we envision it during youth. There are countless factors that interfere with your ability to clearly see those success indicators and life paths to success. These factors, or "Environmental Noise," can be detrimental to even the most focused of individuals. Think of what would happen if you dumped the contents of downtown New York into your box and tried to maintain your focus on those goals. Would you even be able to see your life path anymore?
Everyone must travel their life path with environmental noise inundating them from all sides. It begins to become cloudy. The dotted lines, our life paths, begin to look like the straight lines and the success indicators start to be confused with any number of different distractions.
And then something will happen and you will realize that you are in fact nowhere near the original success indicators you set for yourself. Everything has changed and yet you are stuck in a way. You are deep within the center of the middle rectangular box and you have no idea which way to go or how to get back on track. The noise only grows louder and you grow dizzy trying to regain your focus.
It is in this instant that you must clear the noise and return to the basic, almost instinctive mode of thought you experienced as a child. What did you want from life? Where did you want to go? What do you need to get to that point? What was my life path? All of these questions must be asked without the distractions of the world around you muddying up your thought process. When you can revert to a very simple perspective of the world and only spend time thinking of what you want from life, you can be that much more successful.
You can succeed in life despite the environmental noise, cruising down your life paths and moving through your rectangles with ease, but oftentimes you need a helping hand to clear away the noise and look at life with fresh eyes. There is nothing wrong with asking for help to weed out these distractions and remove the clutter from your life sectors with a professional life coach.
Is your life path inundated with environmental noise? Learn how you can lift the noise and begin reestablishing your success indicators today. Visit www.brunologreco.com a Life Coach Toronto today.
Top 10 Benefits to Journaling
There are countless reasons to maintaining a journal. The top ten benefits of journaling may differ from person to person. However, there seems to be general themes that are attractive in the collective unconscious. Many people are looking to daily entries of their personal experiences to reap some of the following rewards.
Maintaining a journal is a natural way to exercise the brain. People who make regular entries are taking time to develop writing and communication skills that are very valuable in everyday interactions. This mental exercise also helps to allow your thoughts to flow freely.
Creativity is a second benefit to consider. This is an important aspect of journaling. The right hemisphere of the brain is associated with visual, imaginative and intuitive facets of thought. When you take time to write, you free the right hemisphere. The ideal entry will be one that puts the inner editor on hold. Thoughts and ideas should flow freely and naturally.
The uninhibited nature of this form of writing serves a third benefit of developing self awareness. People often create different faces to meet various circumstances. We tend to recreate in distinct situations including the work environment, the community and even when at home.
The process of keeping a journal helps you recognize the various aspects of your unique personality. The growing self awareness is a powerful force that can lead to even greater benefits in the future. Gaining insight into the self is among the most important aspects to maintaining a journal.
The fourth benefit is the ability to set priorities. Once you get a grasp on the thoughts and emotions that are filtered through your personal experience, you begin to gain control of them. The process eventually leads to a greater understanding of what is and what is not important.
The ability to re-see the past is another great benefit of keeping a journal. The pages can be revisited with a fresh perspective. It can be very surprising how much your understanding of an event changes over a relatively short period of time. Some writers find great moments of epiphany when rethinking and rereading entries.
Journaling is a fantastic problem-solving resource. The approach of using entries to come up with various solutions to troubles is a little different than approaches for self awareness and growth. Many people choose temporary brainstorming techniques that serve to give viable solutions to problems.
The seventh benefit of journaling is variety. You can choose what kind of entries you want to make. Common choices include brainstorming sessions, automatic writing and reflective notes. Personal journal entries can be made upon inspiration, when you first wake or right before you fall asleep. Some choose to do a combination of these.
Purging is the eighth benefit to this practice. Many people find it helpful to place negative thoughts and feelings down on paper. Once the negative energy is placed on the page, they are free to let it go. This practice also works well when dealing with anger towards another individual. Purge the negativity and work towards a constructive approach.
The ability to communicate with others is another benefit of keeping a journal. Those who work with life coaches can find a wealth of resources for sessions. Journaling can help you tap into your fears and dreams, helping your coach gain insight through entries that you choose to share.
The tenth benefit is improvement in your overall health. Journaling reduces stress. It provides time for you to meditate. The process helps to make the positive forces in your life surface and it helps to bring the harmful elements into light. The result of personal journaling is a new perspective on how you can take control of many aspects of your life.
Want to learn how online journaling can help you reach goals and problem solve? Learn more about life coach Toronto at brunologreco.com and journaling at iijournal.
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13 comments:
Welcome back! You were missed.
How about some hints to help out a 19 year old whose AF dreams were crushed when he was honorably discharged. He's having a really hard time finding the energy needed to start on a new journey.
Hallie
welcome back...yep you were missed!
16 yr old girls...and low self esteem that they can not begin to express why they hate themselves so much...and being the parent ... oh dear... that might require YEARS ...
again welcome back!
Welcome back to the blogosphere!
I've had therapists before. They like to blame your parents. hehehe.
Welcome back :)
I have no topics to suggest... but I hope your writing will continue to get more and more personalized and in touch with You yourself ;) ..I know you missed it :)
welcome back and i've missed you (: looking forward to your upcoming posts.
Hi Hallie! As much as you were missing me, I was missing all of you. I was on the thread of posts when your son was discharged. That was at the beginning of the summer - He is also going through one of the toughest development stages of his life. Two months might not be long enough time for him to get over the loss of the AF. His confidence took a blow, and depending on the level of identification to the AF, he might be down for a while. Let me sit on this one for a couple of day’s -look for something at the end of the week. Words of inspiration :)
Hi Laura - Thank you for the nice comment :) I do have to tell you - Although I promised myself three weeks with no blogging or writing, I was itching towards the end of last week - I was curious about you and your daughter, how you guys were doing? Laura, same thing with your daughter—she is going through this development phase and it's all so confusing and highly emotional. Your daughter is searching for lots of love, and a friend that understands what she is going through. She needs an ear with no voice.
Hey Sue!! :) Everybody needs somebody to blame, but nobody want to blame themselves. Okay, I too am generalizing. I'm sure there are some therapists that serve their purpose, as I'm sure there are others that could do better, especially the ones that sit on 5th Ave and charge $500/hr - I need to bump my rates. :) What do you think?
Thanks traisas - I think you are correct - I was missing the personal touch in my blogging. I sometimes I forget, and that's why I took the three week hiatus. No blogging or writing (except for personal journal). I just observed and learned more about me. Thanks for recognizing that.. ☺
Hi Mona! Thanks for dropping in and saying hello! As soon as your post came through my email today, I immediately thought about the other site blogger introduced. I can’t for the life remember the name… URGGG.
Hi Bruno - welcome back and thank you for your comment just now! I am not sure if I agree with your assessment of my "talent" but I am very flattered and thank you for your kind words.
You write about whatever you like - I like what you write. ;0)
welcome back.
storm
do you mean knol?
welcome.
are you the real deal?
greetings from kathleen in anchorage alaska :)
aka buddy of sue's
Thanks mona - thats the one. I'm going to start posting there any day. Thanks again!
Welcome SGTBM - I hope I'm the real deal - If I can't be Bruno, then I'm not sure I would want to be anything else. So If I am Bruno and I cannot be anything or anybody else, then I am the real deal. Welcome Kathleen!
thanks for the welcome, K
$500 an hour? You are shortchanging yourself, friend! hahaha.
:-) I agree with your generalization too. I understand why Canadians want one thing and Americans want another.
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