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    Tuesday, May 20, 2008

    Awareness

    A few weeks ago 20/20 aired a special on (can’t remember the exact title), but the show was about people in major cities in the US, that are so into their own heads that they don’t see what is right in front of them. 20/20 demonstrated how people, thousands of them did not notice kids, ages 7 to 10, boys and girls from different ethnic backgrounds, crying at the side of the street. It was mind boggling and scary all at the same time. 20/20 further showed that children in the same age group, walking with their parents, and kids in strollers, all noticed the kids crying at the side of the street, and one of them even pointed at them, as their parents continued on, not even noticing the crying kids. Of the thousands of people that walked by during this report, only a handful of adults, mostly woman and seniors, spotted the children crying and stopped to help.

    The report was not on awareness or living in the NOW, I really can’t remember exactly what the report was about. But, what I learned from the show was, children all live in the NOW, aware of their surroundings and learning with each passing moment. Each kid that walked by the crying kid, all spotted each other. Why didn’t the parents spot the kids crying? Were they so far in thought, either past or future, that everything around them at that very moment was meaningless? I will never know what they were thinking. Thousands of people deep in thought, with no clue as to the reality of the world around them.

    We can learn a lot from children, but that would require us letting go of the idea that we know more than our children do.

    Past-Present-Future, where do you want to live? Bruno LoGreco Life Coach Toronto
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    6 comments:

    bart said...

    i'd suspect that the lack of awareness by adults are a combination of stress, self-absorption and social dumbing down... children are lucky enough to escape from the social straightjackets until adolescence and thus are able to see many things adults miss...

    i think quietness of mind is an essential feature if one wants to be able to fundamentally appreciate the world around him/her...

    keep well...

    Julie said...

    I was browsing a number of books the other night on a book list from Berkeley -
    http://books.berkeley.
    edu/2003/psychology.shtml
    and I think the comment about 'living in the present' may have been in 'The House of Cards' (open search on Amazon).

    Just out of interest, I found that the Massachusetts Institute of Technology publishes a lot of psychology lecture notes etc (zip files) online.

    Liara Covert said...

    Anonymity becomes more common in big cities where people tend to go into survival mode. They focus on fear and become protective rather than reach out. Imagine what would happen if you took steps to reconnect yourself to humanity, no matter where you live?

    Bruno LoGreco said...

    Bart - you are absolutely correct - Imagine the world that is really out there--Things that make you go hmmm.

    Thanks Julie for the links - I will definitely look through and see what is out there. I read psychology books and workbooks like people read novels. LOL

    The world would be an incredible place to live in Liara -- for the fortunate ones, the world you described is reality. :)

    Anonymous said...

    I have thought about this problem with people's self-absorption from time to time over the last several years in particular, maybe as I've become more aware of it. I find that it's difficult for me to NOT be aware of my surroundings. I even remember how when I worked as a cashier at a supermarket and was serving a customer, I heard a young girl wailing with cries as she told her mom she got hurt nearby, and I even felt myself wanting to cry (being sensitive that way, but that's for another topic). I've had times when I walked down a hallway at a school and realized people aren't even noticing others right in front of them, they're simply there but not fully there. It's also interesting how walking down the street, lately I've started to want to look at people and give a smile, why not? But people just have such serious faces, and they don't seem to want to respond. If only they knew how we're all connected and how silly it is to be so absorbed in only your own world, your problems, and whatever we make ourselves get caught up in. It's interesting, though, that usually when you're in a smaller city or town, people seem more friendly and caring. Neighbours know one another and help each other out. Elsewhere, you're more like a number.

    Bruno LoGreco said...

    Welcome anonymous! In a big city there is so much noise. Many that are born in the city know no other way of life - for those that move to the city, they get engulfed into the noise and lose site of everything-- becoming nothing more than a number like you say. In small towns and communities, people are less distracted just by the way of life.

    We are all connected -- some can see it, other can not - not that they won't, they just don't know how to. Our purpose is to educate the ones that do not know.

    Thank you for your comment!

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    Ten Powerful Self-Coaching Tips

    By Bruno LoGreco

    Are you living the life of creativity and happiness that you've always dreamed of, or are you allowing your fears or other outside factors to influence you?

    Following the path that your heart's desires requires courage and might require a shift in attitude. There are several methods you can use to act as your own life coach and start working toward the life you dream of.

    Ideas for self-improvement

    You don't need to change every aspect of your life at once in order to improve your attitude and outlook on life. Self-improvement can feel daunting if you try to change everything at once.

    A good way to embark on your journey of self-coaching is to make one change and see what kind of impact it has upon your life. The following tips are designed to help you improve your life and become your own life coach. Try out one of the following tips at a time to positively impact your attitude and daily life.

    1. Find some ‘you' time. Everyone needs time alone to meditate and recharge. You may think you don't have extra time in your day. Start with 10-20 minutes to use for meditation or silent reflection.

    2. Ask yourself what you truly want in life. Are you living your life according to your true dreams and desires? You may be unaware of your desires that lie hidden beneath your surface needs and wants, so take the time to find out.

    3. Write everything down. Even if your thought seems silly, write it down! You may be surprised by the inspiration and ideas you can come up with.

    4. Journal daily, but with a twist. Instead of just writing about today, try writing about yesterday.

    5. Keep track of the "happy moments." Each day has potential for many small moments that bring joy and happiness. If you don't make a special note of them, you may not even recognize the small joys in your day.

    6. Choose one task each night to complete the next day. This way, you have focus, and you accomplish at least one task. Tasking and taxing yourself with effort is important in reaching goals.

    7. Smile when you wake up. Smiling is contagious. By smiling you improve your mood and can potentially improve someone else's day as well.

    8. Give thanks each night. Gratitude will improve your outlook on life and help you see all the good and wonderful moments of your day.

    9. Try something new. A new experience fuels creativity and your enjoyment of the day.

    10. Create at least one memorable moment each day. Make each day unforgettable, even if in a small way!

    Taking the next step with a life coach

    Self-coaching tips are great ideas for helping you improve your life. However, you can take your life to the next level with a life coach and mentor. A professional life coach can help you set goals and help you move forward with your dreams. If you're looking for the right path toward happiness, a life coach can help you discover the path your heart truly desires.

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    The Success Indicators on Your Life Path

    Many people seek out a particular goal in their life path and are content when they achieve it. The chance to broaden their horizons or learn new things within an existent structure is not as appealing to them as it is to some others. This is an issue that arises in many individuals because they mistakenly think they have achieved what they wanted to in their lives. The plethora of environmental noise around them begins to infringe upon their goals and forces them to lose sight of what they truly wanted.

    A good way to think of this problem is to envision a large square box. This is not just any box though. Rather, in this case, your box has been divided into three separate, but equally shaped rectangular boxes, all stacked on top of one another. Each of these rectangular boxes is a highly important expression of your life goals -- individual levels of success. Within each of these levels of success is an indicator that tells you how close you are to becoming successful in this area of your life.

    Every area of your life that you identify as a potential path for success can be further divided, containing the many different events and obstacles you will encounter as you strive to reach your goals. Think of each sector of your life as being divided even further, with three new sections within one of the three stacked boxes (sectors). Within each stacked box are three separate sections, divided by dotted lines that make up the life path you will follow. These dotted lines are not the same as the solid lines dividing the sectors -- they are a path that you have envisioned since childhood -- a series of goals and pathways to success that you want to follow.

    As young people, these life paths may not be fully formed. Or they might be crystal clear in our minds--long, straight life paths from the early days of college and adult living to the ultimate goal of success that you have always strived for. You can see exactly what you need to do to reach each success indicator and achieve what you have set out to accomplish. And you probably did just this. After all, your goals as a youth were to be successful in the same way that you saw thousands of others live their lives. You wanted to reach your success indicators and experience the measure of success by which you would measure you life for decades to come.

    However, nothing is ever as simple as we envision it during youth. There are countless factors that interfere with your ability to clearly see those success indicators and life paths to success. These factors, or "Environmental Noise," can be detrimental to even the most focused of individuals. Think of what would happen if you dumped the contents of downtown New York into your box and tried to maintain your focus on those goals. Would you even be able to see your life path anymore?

    Everyone must travel their life path with environmental noise inundating them from all sides. It begins to become cloudy. The dotted lines, our life paths, begin to look like the straight lines and the success indicators start to be confused with any number of different distractions.

    And then something will happen and you will realize that you are in fact nowhere near the original success indicators you set for yourself. Everything has changed and yet you are stuck in a way. You are deep within the center of the middle rectangular box and you have no idea which way to go or how to get back on track. The noise only grows louder and you grow dizzy trying to regain your focus.

    It is in this instant that you must clear the noise and return to the basic, almost instinctive mode of thought you experienced as a child. What did you want from life? Where did you want to go? What do you need to get to that point? What was my life path? All of these questions must be asked without the distractions of the world around you muddying up your thought process. When you can revert to a very simple perspective of the world and only spend time thinking of what you want from life, you can be that much more successful.

    You can succeed in life despite the environmental noise, cruising down your life paths and moving through your rectangles with ease, but oftentimes you need a helping hand to clear away the noise and look at life with fresh eyes. There is nothing wrong with asking for help to weed out these distractions and remove the clutter from your life sectors with a professional life coach.

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    Top 10 Benefits to Journaling

    By Bruno Logreco

    There are countless reasons to maintaining a journal. The top ten benefits of journaling may differ from person to person. However, there seems to be general themes that are attractive in the collective unconscious. Many people are looking to daily entries of their personal experiences to reap some of the following rewards.

    Maintaining a journal is a natural way to exercise the brain. People who make regular entries are taking time to develop writing and communication skills that are very valuable in everyday interactions. This mental exercise also helps to allow your thoughts to flow freely.

    Creativity is a second benefit to consider. This is an important aspect of journaling. The right hemisphere of the brain is associated with visual, imaginative and intuitive facets of thought. When you take time to write, you free the right hemisphere. The ideal entry will be one that puts the inner editor on hold. Thoughts and ideas should flow freely and naturally.

    The uninhibited nature of this form of writing serves a third benefit of developing self awareness. People often create different faces to meet various circumstances. We tend to recreate in distinct situations including the work environment, the community and even when at home.

    The process of keeping a journal helps you recognize the various aspects of your unique personality. The growing self awareness is a powerful force that can lead to even greater benefits in the future. Gaining insight into the self is among the most important aspects to maintaining a journal.

    The fourth benefit is the ability to set priorities. Once you get a grasp on the thoughts and emotions that are filtered through your personal experience, you begin to gain control of them. The process eventually leads to a greater understanding of what is and what is not important.

    The ability to re-see the past is another great benefit of keeping a journal. The pages can be revisited with a fresh perspective. It can be very surprising how much your understanding of an event changes over a relatively short period of time. Some writers find great moments of epiphany when rethinking and rereading entries.

    Journaling is a fantastic problem-solving resource. The approach of using entries to come up with various solutions to troubles is a little different than approaches for self awareness and growth. Many people choose temporary brainstorming techniques that serve to give viable solutions to problems.

    The seventh benefit of journaling is variety. You can choose what kind of entries you want to make. Common choices include brainstorming sessions, automatic writing and reflective notes. Personal journal entries can be made upon inspiration, when you first wake or right before you fall asleep. Some choose to do a combination of these.

    Purging is the eighth benefit to this practice. Many people find it helpful to place negative thoughts and feelings down on paper. Once the negative energy is placed on the page, they are free to let it go. This practice also works well when dealing with anger towards another individual. Purge the negativity and work towards a constructive approach.

    The ability to communicate with others is another benefit of keeping a journal. Those who work with life coaches can find a wealth of resources for sessions. Journaling can help you tap into your fears and dreams, helping your coach gain insight through entries that you choose to share.

    The tenth benefit is improvement in your overall health. Journaling reduces stress. It provides time for you to meditate. The process helps to make the positive forces in your life surface and it helps to bring the harmful elements into light. The result of personal journaling is a new perspective on how you can take control of many aspects of your life.

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