Lets face it the majority of the population doesn’t have the means to send their children abroad for education. Most of us graduate high school and go onto college either in state or somewhere within the country. The only inspiration many of us got before having to choose a career path were all-inclusive resorts somewhere tropical and school trips to museums, which many of us hardly paid any attention to. And somehow we were expected to “figure it out” all before going onto college.
Unfortunately, most of us do not "figure it out." Actually, many of us don’t figure it out until late in life long after graduating from college, if we do at all. And yet there is this overwhelming expectation, which is on us from a very young age, plus the pressure we put on our self to become that illusionary person. We don’t even know our identity yet let alone the person we believe we must become.
Into the 20’s the goal for many of us is to hurry up to find a mate – a connection with someone to settle down and start a family with. So we scramble to find a career so that we can earn money to buy a home with a white picket fence before the children arrive. Some how that is what we believe is the "right" thing to do, adding more pressure onto our shoulders as we chase what we believe is the “right” life.
What happens when we can’t achieve what we believe we must do to become the persona we believe we should be?It is difficult to live up to those expectations because they are not real – they’re illusionary making it impossible to achieve. It knocks out the self-confidence within us when no matter how hard we try it never seems "good enough", so we give-up. We become unmotivated to try new things or to meet new people, and slowly draw a box around our lonely existence hoping to lure another person into joining us. Some of us do find that other person to join into our box and some of us don’t.
That overwhelming feeling created from the self-belief of not being "good enough" doesn’t have to be there. Nobody told us that we need inspiration before we could really “figure it out” and find a career path that serves us. But nobody told us that we couldn’t find our own inspiration and career path which best serves us either. It’s simply a choice we choose to make based on what we choose to believe.
Who am I?
We are not defined by what we do or the roles we play, nor is it by our material possessions and the perception of others. We are defined by core values, morals and ethics, strengths, talent and the skills which we are shy about, and by our weaknesses too - the things we don’t do so well. We are even the things we don’t like about ourselves.
Those are the things that make us, and the sooner we learn what those are the sooner we will stop chasing what we believe is the “right” thing and the “right” life and really “figure it out” once and for all so that we can feel good about ourselves and know that we are "good enough."
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