Good Luck, You'll Need It To Become Successful

It makes me laugh when I overhear people say, you need to be lucky to succeed at life. That’s the biggest cop out if I ever heard one. Don’t get me wrong I do believe in luck or I should say, I believe you get back what you put out into the Universe. If this translates into luck then I too believe in luck.

Everybody knows someone who believes you need to be lucky to succeed. These people work really hard. They get things done. They hardly push anything off for another day, and will spend many hours doing extra work seeking recognition and expecting a reward. They become passionate about their work and share the level of difficulty with others. But the moment something doesn’t go in their favor, like a job placement, a promotion - anything, they lose their steam and feel unlucky.

And then there are those who are lucky. These people put out into the Universe what they want and they go after it. Lucky people know a job placement or promotion will come down to statistics, just like a lottery game. What lucky people do is increase the odds in their favor. They let others know about their ambitions. They speak to their strength and feel confident in an interview. They speak to their boss throughout the year and express an interest in growth and are not afraid of criticism and to try something new.

Everyone agrees that everyone is an individual. Everyone has his or her own brain and thoughts and will act according to their principles and objectives. Then there is no reason for anyone to believe that another person can read your mind and know what you want. Successful people don’t become successful because they dream it and hope one day someone will give them an opportunity. They are successful because they work towards it and share their ambitions and dreams with others. Before Madonna became famous she made it known what her ambitions were, so did Donald Trump and many more.

Lucky people increase their chances at success because they are not afraid to let people know what their ambitions are. They are not afraid of rejection or judgment, nor are they afraid to fail. Failure to them is an opportunity to learn something new, and with some luck you might land on something unexpected. So if you are someone who feels unlucky, make a wish and go after it. Good Luck!

Bruno LoGreco Life Coach & Mentor

Good Luck, You'll Need It To Become Successful

Is False Information Instilling Fear In Your Mind?

Negativity is a limiting behavior. It prevents you from achieving your goals and living life to the fullest. It instills doubt in your mind and can destroy your confidence. It will create fear and false beliefs - roadblocks and obstacles that really don’t exist. It will limit your chance at succeeding at the very things you want to do.

Creating a negative mindset is easy. All it takes is one negative force within your environment; friend, family, teacher, anybody you spend time with, and you will easily adopt their negative views. Unfortunately, if you already are a negative person you will easily identify to the negativity and adopt it into your own internal belief system.

Negativity is often spoken with authority, it fools you into believing it is true. A naysayer could impart his or her wisdom, and if you have no prior experience with the subject matter, you may take it on as your own. With no supporting facts, you adopt their perspective - right or wrong, and begin to operate according to the naysayer when discussing that subject matter.

It won’t be until you attempt to go after something you want in life, this is when your negative self-talk - your mind chatter, will prevent you from trying or moving forward with the things you want for your life. You will be unsuccessful. Not because you tried and couldn't achieve a desired target, but because of the fear that has been instilled into you with no proven facts.

After your first, non-attempt, and perceived failure, you will have your own negative experience to contribute to the negativity within your environment. And without a doubt, you will believe something did not happen that you wanted, although you never tried, and you will impart your wisdom on to others. This is how negative behavior perpetuates throughout your environment.

1. Take inventory of everything you want to accomplish in your life.
2. Next to each one write what is holding you back from accomplishing it.
3. For each fear, write the worst-case scenario, the one holing you back from tacking it.
4. Ask yourself if the fear is based on fact or something you learned from someone.
5. Take inventory of all the negative people in your life (Friends/Family/Teachers).
6. Next to each person write his or her worst complaint/fear.
7. Review your list of fears and verify if the fear is your own or a fear that belongs to someone on your list of negative people.

Bruno LoGreco Life Coach & Mentor

Is False Information Instilling Fear In Your Mind?

Don't Let Fear Turn You Into a Procrastinator - Especially if You're a Perfectionist

The first step to addressing procrastination is to admit that you are a procrastinator. Being a procrastinator doesn’t necessarily mean you are lazy. Some procrastinators are also perfectionists. They will only do the things they do well and with accuracy but won’t do the things that they do not know how to do because they fear they cannot live up to their own expectation – perfection, so they put it off.

Past experiences will play a role in procrastinators. If you have experienced a negative outcome with something you put your heart and soul into you will be less likely to tackle something of the same nature in the future for fear of failure, and possibly judgment. You will most likely only lean towards things, which you know you can do well.

There could be many reasons why you procrastinate. The objective is to learn why and understand what you fear. You may be putting things off because you just don’t know how to execute it. Maybe you did have a bad experience and were judged by your peers. Perhaps you’re an over achiever and by not producing something of excellence, frightens you.

Once you identify the cause, you will need to take action. You will need to face your fear head on. Most procrastinators are not aware that it does take a few failures before they will learn a new skill. This is the only way you will learn and grow as an individual.

At the end of the day if you decide to continue putting off tasks for whatever reason or fear, the truth is you already failed, yourself and possibly others. If you continue down this path eventually you will become stagnant and one day wakeup feeling stuck.

Bruno LoGreco Life Coach & Mentor

Don't Let Fear Turn You Into a Procrastinator - Especially if You're a Perfectionist

Can Harmony Exist In The Mind of The Insecure?

At the core of every human being is love. Everybody wants to be loved unconditionally by friends, family and their soul mate. But there are those who need greater support and validation – the insecure. These people often sabotage their chance at living a peaceful and harmonious life because of what they believe about themselves and their perception of others.

The insecure think about their dislikes and weaknesses more than they think about their redeeming qualities. When anyone thinks about their negative qualities more than their positive, they burst the bubble that houses their confidence, and reduces their self-esteem to rubble. The insecure often look towards their loved ones to boost their self-esteem with encouragement and support. However, even those words seem hard to believe in the mind of an insecure person.

An insecure person will mostly think about the negative aspects of his or her life. They replay past experiences in their head over and over beating themselves up for what they think they should have done instead. With so many negative thoughts floating around, they believe that their loved ones do not accept them for whom they are and push them away. It’s easier to push loved ones away sooner rather than later so that they don’t see through the insecurity and learn about all the flaws. In the mind of an insecure person, they rather distance themselves first before they get hurt again.

Insecure people with low self-esteem feel vulnerable in a relationship. They think the love they are getting from their mate is conditional and could end at anytime. So they sabotage the relationship so they don’t get hurt and move further away from the peaceful and harmonious life they long for.

Bruno LoGreco Life Coach & Mentor

Can Harmony Exist In The Mind of The Insecure?

Abandonment And The Need To Be Loved...

Some parents cease to take interest in their childrens life and stop looking after them past a certain age. Unbeknown to some parents, this will create a sense of abandonment within the child - a void in the soul. The behaviors expressed due to the hole will differ from person to person - from men to women during adulthood.

A typical behaviors that is expresses is grasping at anything they believe will finally make them happy and fill the void. If you are that person that grasps at anything and anyone hoping this time is the right one - the perfect happiness you long for... There will be many more times, unfortunately.

The key is for you to become the adult and give yourself the love and nuture you so desperately are searching for. Buying gifts and doing for others will not make them stay. In fact, buying gifts and doing for others will only make you feel worse about yourself after they leave.

You don't need to do anything for anyone or buy anyone gifts to receive their true, unconditional love.

Bruno LoGreco Life Coach & Mentor

Abandonment And The Need To Be Loved...

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How do you maintain a happy life with a smile on your face everyday?

I have no desire to talk about yesterday. Yesterday is gone and unless I created an experience worth sharing with people – meaning my experience will enhance anyone I share it with, its gone and it will take too much of my conscious thought and energy to dig up. It’s just not worth my energy. And tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. So unless I’m setting a goal I do not give much thought to the future.

Past experiences serve two purposes only in my world: To develop life skills, and to enhance people by sharing the experience with them. I enhance my skills daily based on each of my experiences. Some experiences I will carry with me forever, and some I will discard and forget it as quickly as it happened. Every client meeting is an opportunity for me to learn something new and to develop an effective tool for myself and for clients. I use past experiences to illustrate potential, motivate and to inspire people.

If I’m authentically concerned about tomorrow, I take corrective action this moment to minimize any negative consequences. Otherwise all I’m doing is creating scenarios in my head. Useless thoughts that create different outcomes each associated with an emotion - An emotional roller coaster ride about something that hasn’t happened. I would rather deal with whatever is on my mind now than to keep thinking about “What if?” If I’m not thinking about “What If” I’m less likely to feel anxious.

As long as I follow these two rules, I am free to be happy and to live my life in the moment - Exactly where life ought to be. :)

Bruno LoGreco Life Coach & Mentor.

How do you maintain a happy life with a smile on your face everyday?

New York City - A Dream Come True

New York is home away from home. For someone that lives in Toronto, it sure does feel like I have an attachment to the Tri-State region. I started traveling to New Jersey in my late teens and into my early twenties. I spent many long weekends and vacations along the Jersey shores. Later in my 20’s I worked for a major pharmaceutical company located in New Jersey, across the river from Manhattan.

Now in my mid 30’s, I roam the streets of Manhattan deciding which restaurant to have lunch at and how to get home from there. I’m still learning the subway system and how to get to the Upper East Side. I don’t take the subway often so its fun learning how to get around.

I’m not surprised New York is home away from home. When I was in my 20’s and working in New Jersey, I said to myself that one day I will live in Manhattan. And here I am almost a decade later. It just goes to show you how powerful the mind really is when it has clarity. Meaning the mind is free from chatter.

Don’t get me wrong I love New York but I love Toronto. You can take the boy out of Toronto but you can’t take Toronto out of the boy. I appreciate the beauty and the energy New York has, but my city is Toronto. Besides, being able to commute between the two cities serves up a wealth of information. Each person I come in contact with in a restaurant or airport is so unique, everyone becomes a source of inspiration.

It amazes me how close Toronto is to New York, but the behavior types are so vastly different. Some of the tools I use in Toronto won’t work in New York. The communication and delivery style is different because of the environment. New York is a hustle and bustle city, so you have to foster the environment while dissolving negative behavioral patterns, which prevent success.

New York is a city based on perception. So there are many different roles a person must play in this big city to survive. When a person plays too many roles the chatter is very loud. Guiding someone to happiness in New York does take a lot more work. First I build his or her confidence by calling out their strengths and fostering them. And after they have a healthy confidence level I start showing them their weaknesses and the ego they built around them to survive in the Big Apple.

Maybe there is a bigger purpose for New York. Who knows! For now I know that I made it here. I’m accomplishing my goals I set out to achieve. I don’t believe for one moment my goal was only to get here, I believe it was to get here and do something at a grand scale - To help people live their dreams. Or is this me dreaming again?

Bruno LoGreco Life Coach & Mentor

New York City - A Dream Come True

What is Life Coach & Mentor Bruno LoGreco Working On?

September came and went. I did a lot last month. Early in the month I was tied up with Style By Jury, finishing off two episodes for the new season. All I will say about this upcoming season is that it gets real juicy. You will have to tune in to find out how juicy it really is. Check your local listings – In Canada you can tune into the W Network and in the United States you catch it on the Life for Woman channel. Style By Jury is syndicated in 40 countries – I don’t know which 40, though.

From time to time I mess up my schedule. I either don’t schedule the appointment in iCal (MAC version of Outlook), or I do and some how the event is deleted… I doubt the latter so all that is left is for me to take responsibility for my screw-up. I created a little mess with a production date. September 10th, I was scheduled to be the speaker at a seminar sponsored by the Office of Economic Development but I was also scheduled to film a scene for Style By Jury. Both equally important but one I could not cancel. I realized my screw- over the Labor Day weekend. Fortunately, I did speak at the seminar and was able to film my scene a week later.

Later in the month I spoke at the Purchasing Management Association of Canada, at a business networking meeting, held in Ottawa. I was a member of the PMAC when I worked in the corporate world. In my past life before life coaching, I was in Strategic Sourcing. It was my job to outsource jobs to offshore companies. So speaking at the PMAC felt very comfortable and I was able to use my past experience to engage the audience. I am looking forward to speaking at the Toronto Chapter.

The month of September closed at the Mayor’s Luncheon. Over the summer I mentored summer students into starting a summer company. Students are given a Government Grant to start a business. The Small Business Enterprise Center oversees the program in each region across Ontario. Student’s who execute their business plan and produce the expected results receive an invitation to attend the Mayor’s Luncheon accompanied by the center and the mentors. Its great exposure and experience for the winning student.

After a very busy summer and busy September, I snuck a little vacation in before the next few months take over which lead into the holiday season. I’m working on a goal that has been in play for a few months. In due time I will let everyone know what it is. So I need my down time to relax and to re-center so I can get through this next phase of my goal.

If there were no obstacles in your way and you had no doubt in your mind that you could succeed at living out a dream, what would that dream be?

Bruno LoGreco Life Coach & Mentor

What is Life Coach & Mentor Bruno LoGreco Working On?