Emotions

What a mixed bag of feelings and emotions people have. Did you know that everything is connected to each other; confidence, self-esteem, ego, trust, self-worth, depression, anxiety, fear, the list goes on and on. If you experience any one of these emotions, among others, then you could assume they are all out of sorts. Its like the five pillars: emotional, intellectual, physical, financial, and spiritual, if anyone of these pillars is off balance, the others will be off too. Because ONE pillar will have an affect on another.

Lets take fear for example. You have the fear for public speaking. The thought, because all emotions stem from a thought, of speaking among a crowd scares you. You are afraid of what the people in the crowd will say. You think they will make negative comments. Those thoughts spark a feeling of anxiety through your body and soon you are saying, "NO WAY. I'm afraid to speak in front of a crowd. I'm NOT doing it." Sound familiar?

That is only the beginning of the problem. The fear for public speaking is the surface emotion, but what is contributing to the emotion? Pick ONE! It doesn't matter which emotion you pick. Sooner or later they will all apply. So for argument sake lets pick Ego. The fear for public speaking is really the fear of judgement. How another person will judge your performance. Nobody wants to look like a fool in front of any crowd, so the thought is, "My dignity is worth far more." My dignity is about pride, and pride is about self-image.

You were taught at a very young age to have pride in what you do, care for what you do and from that your value system will develop. But these values, if adapted to your self-image rather than specific situations, could lead to lack of self-worth, guilt, shame and a few other emotions that fuel bad ego. (Now I'm beginning to wonder If I could actually write about all of them in one post, NOT today) So when situational based values are applied to self-image, pride over the truth, the TRUTH is nobody is talking about you, you haven't even spoken, the ego is largely at play. And of course there is good ego, and good ego operates from a place of TRUTH, facts.

So what is really going on? Why are you really AFRAID to speak? Are you lacking confidence? I am NOT suggesting that if you cannot speak among a crowd that you are not a confident person generally. Because you could be confident in one area but not in another, but that's another post too. The reality is you are lacking confidence, because your ego is in the way of LEARNING. What I mean by learning is by screwing-up. YES I said screw-up. How else are you going to learn unless you screw-up. You've given way too many people credit for thinking they know everything. Isn't that what you are implying? Start learning again and you will be surprised how much more confident you will become.

Did somebody say Confident? Oh boy, If I'm feeling confident that must mean my SELF-ESTEEM is high. You mean I control my self-esteem? Only if you CHOOSE too. But you have to be willing to fall and get a little bruised the first time. But the next time you fall the bruise won't be as large and you will get up quicker too. With more CONFIDENCE and higher SELF-ESTEEM you will be less likely to experience an episode of depression. Again, I'm not saying that if you can't public speak that you are doomed for depression.

Anyway, I think my CONFIDENCE is just about out of steam for today. Come back Tuesday when we can talk about some of those other emotions that get in your way each day. And if you still want to talk about your EMOTIONS or learn how to deal with them, get some SUPPORT, or check out Life Coach, Toronto native Bruno LoGreco - I'm sure he will give you the SUPPORT you need.

Today's creative writing style was inspired by Hallie, Amity, and Jena. This style of writing is oh so much more fun. Thank you ladies!

Emotions