tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946883645430222340.post313682178470969946..comments2023-06-02T09:15:00.852-04:00Comments on A Toronto life coaches journey: External Validation - A Life Of DisappointmentBruno LoGrecohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03704794716622619520noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946883645430222340.post-59496768172035185362009-04-30T19:01:00.000-04:002009-04-30T19:01:00.000-04:00Gotcha.Gotcha.Red Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18321836478316495128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946883645430222340.post-2279042573044311072009-04-30T13:23:00.000-04:002009-04-30T13:23:00.000-04:00Generally, when someone has a level of expectation...Generally, when someone has a level of expectation, perhaps overly relies on other people to fulfill some kind of internal void, (if they do this that means.., if they do that then for sure it means...but if they do it then it means... ) they become disappointed because whomever did not follow through just proved their logic. But if they follow through they are happy, until the next time.Bruno LoGrecohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03704794716622619520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946883645430222340.post-83828558857880870992009-04-30T12:55:00.000-04:002009-04-30T12:55:00.000-04:00I just don't get how I "feel that person owes [me]...I just don't get how I "feel that person owes [me] happiness in some way." I have yet to see this about myself.Red Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18321836478316495128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946883645430222340.post-34639429746729491232009-04-30T05:51:00.000-04:002009-04-30T05:51:00.000-04:00What I mean is - People that require external vali...What I mean is - People that require external validation have no control over the actions or what comes out of the mouth of the person they seek external validation from. They simply cannot control them, they can only control self and how they interpret the situation. Having an expectation is controlling a situation to go your way. The only way it will go your way is through open communication - to articulate what it is you want so the other person knows what is on your mind. <br /><br />Does that help?Bruno LoGrecohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03704794716622619520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2946883645430222340.post-44104462591695936072009-04-30T00:30:00.000-04:002009-04-30T00:30:00.000-04:00"They have no control over the other person but ye..."They have no control over the other person but yet they feel that person owes them happiness in some way." – Could you explain this a little further? I'm not sure if I understand. Although this just might have to do with why I'm feeling a bit defensive.Berylhttp://immalive.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com